Q&A
I feel like I’m just being used as a sex doll and don’t know what to do with it.
I’m a (30m) straight guy and I’ve been dating this (28f);girl for a few months. After breaking up with my fiancé a few months ago, I met an amazing girl. She’s beautiful, smart, has good taste, and has amazing sex. However, sometimes I feel like that’s all she wants from me. She keeps saying she loves me and everyone, but…damn, whenever we go out to rent a place for a quick stop (like a weekend or so), the only thing we do is have sex. all day. the entire afternoon. Then at night…I was alone because she wanted to play Mario Kart with her friends (some ex) until 2-3am…Now, I don’txplain about having sex. As a gamer, I get it, and I like to play with my friends too. But… God, is it wrong for me to want to hug and watch a movie/series? Maybe let’s go to the park, to the trails, to anything that’s not a mall, our Airbnb sex =/ I get it, you wanna play, watch your friends live, but for crying out loud, drop this damn switch, and I To be together. What’s the point of saying you love me and you want to be with me, and if we could be together, would you rather be doing anything other than being with me? Why on earth should I travel with them? watch you play? Because if that’s the case, we can stay home and I’ll go into the stream by myself. Honestly, this has been bugging me for a while…I just want to vent/get it out of my chest. But a little more, I don’t think the relationship will go much forward.It’s sad because I’m really in love with her
No one ever has the full package. If you need emotional connection then start looking elsewhere. It’s the reason why so many on Twitter have fake husband and wives called TC’s.
Basically sexually compatibility at home, emotional connection online.
I have been there, so you have my sympathy.
I know what it is like to really have strong feelings for someone, but it seems like all she wants to do is fuck. And it can be challenging because, on the one hand, you finally found someone who can “keep up” in the bedroom and wants it nearly as much as you do. But on the other hand, as hard as you try to form a meaningful connection outside the bedroom, they almost seem disinterested despite all the “I love you’s” you keep being told.
It has got to hurt even more knowing she is gaming with her ex, seemingly spending her time passively with the ex… It’s like you are the sex she wants, but the person she is chatting up a storm is someone else. I have experienced this, too, in both ways (physically and emotionally). In both instances, it makes you feel like 1/2 a person.
My advice is you talk to her about this, and if nothing changes or she acts disinterested with your concerns, you should move on.
Do you see her outside of these weekend trips?
If you two don’t exactly spend any emotionally intimate time together, what have you really fallen in love with?
I dated a a coworker that was just like this, but instead of video games it was netflix. She would invite me over, to give me a head then watch netflix. She had a mean headgame, but holy she was so boring. She didn’t like to leave her house, and when i was there she wouldnt even talk to me she would be on her phone and watching tv. After 2 months, i broke up with her cause our dates was postmating food to her house and watching tv with her. I hate watching tv lol. Found someone else after, and im really happy with her. If i want to go somewhere she always say yes, and when we are together we have a rule to not be on our phones. Every week we go on dates and we take turns paying as well. Sadly, shes not a person to give head. But i rather have it like that than before.
That’s usually what happens doesn’t it?
You are close to marrying someone, then a new chick comes along and you crave that chase of new adventure. She just fits all the bills and excitement right? So you leave the woman you planned to marry and know to chase this new girl that gives you that rush you missed. But in the end it’s not real and will likely go nowhere.
I think the real problem here is that she’s playing Mario Kart. Is she aware Infinite has dropped?
if you’re invested more emotionally than her you’re always going to be in pain
if she doesn’t give you what you need, step back a little and hope she steps forward. If she doesn’t, step back again
rinse and repeat